Podcast: Ben Tansley on Defeating Disability with Positivity

Podcast: Ben Tansley on Defeating Disability with Positivity

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In 2017, Ben Tansley was told he would never walk again. 

Ben, a fitness enthusiast and gym-owner, was involved in a life-changing motorcycle accident that left him paralysed from the chest down, but he refused to let this define him. Ben’s mental toughness and unwavering positive mindset has led him to grow a significant online following; a position which he uses to promote positivity, discuss his experiences of living with a disability and share the challenges he has taken on since, including completing the entire Berlin Marathon in a wheelchair. 

Ben is the latest guest on the Fear Naught podcast and speaks openly about his life-altering accident, the importance of mental toughness and how a strong positive mindset helped him overcome all the odds. 

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Mind over matter

My first thought after the accident was of my son, Jude, who had been behind me on the motorbike. Was he okay? Once I saw that he was, the next thing I felt was a kind of acceptance. As long as my son was fine, it didn’t matter what happened to me. I was 32 at the time and I had done pretty much everything I want to do by that point in my life.  

Don’t get me wrong, there were days I doubted myself and worried about the future, but I’ve always been someone who can roll with the punches. As soon as I got a negative, I pulled a positive from it. 

My family and friends were more worried than I was. Whenever my mum came to visit me in the hospital, she was especially upset. In the end I said to her, ‘Look, if you don't come in with a happy face then I don't want you to come in, because I'm not unhappy.’ There’s always good to be found in bad situations, and that’s what you’ve got to focus on. I can’t count the amount of messages I get from people telling me how they've used my situation to pull positivity from their own struggles. 


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Disability vs. positivity

I did have one blip. I hadn't been paralysed long – weeks at most, maybe days. I was thinking about the kids: who was going to look after them if something bad happened? Who was going to be there for them if they needed physical help?

Thoughts like that were going around and around my head, and then it occurred to me I might never walk my daughter down the aisle. I can't ever remember crying in my adult life, but as I laid there, I just remember sobbing my heart out for about 20 minutes.

I actually blamed it on the morphine drip, so when the doctor came by I asked to have it taken out. I'd rather be in pain and positive than painless and negative.  

After they took it out, I can’t actually remember being in any pain, so I thought I hadn’t been too bad. Once I had been released, I went back to visit the ward and say thank you to the staff who looked after me. The doctor who treated me asked if I remember being in any pain and I told her I didn’t. It turned out I had been asking them to cut my legs off because it hurt so much. 

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The road to recovery

I documented my recovery daily – all the highs and all the lows. I wanted to give some insight into what a traumatic, life-changing event like a spinal cord injury is really like. It was an eye-opener for me, as well. I own a gym and we had a couple of wheelchair users prior to my accident. I had asked them if there was anything I could change around to make sessions easier for them, but they never moaned even though, in retrospect, I know there were things to moan about. 

I never considered they might be different from me in any way apart from the fact they were in a wheelchair. It never occurred to me until after my accident that it’s not just your legs that can be affected, it’s your bladder, your bowels, sexual function and all kinds of other things. These are people I interacted with every day but knew very little about. I decided that I would use my accident as a chance to educate people about these issues like I had needed to be educated on them. 

The power of positivity

As soon as the doctor told me I wouldn’t walk again, I started grafting. The vision I had of my future had been flipped upside down and I was starting again from level one, so I knew I had to throw myself into it. I saw it like another challenge, and my life has always been about challenges. I’m in constant competition with myself. I remember the first time I was able to wiggle my toe and feeling totally overjoyed, because it showed I was winning. Those milestones really helped motivate me to reach the next one, then the one after that and the one after that. 

I was in hospital for six or seven weeks after the accident, and even during that time I started testing myself. As soon as I’d moved my toes, I started filling catheter bags with water, tying them around my feet and trying to lift them up. From day one, I was pushing my body to get better. 

Staying motivated

My advice to anyone having a tough time is tomake the best of today's situation. Speaking personally, I don't look forward and I don't look back. I'm very much just living in the here and now.

I’ve come a long way from where I was – I now spend most of my time on crutches and only occasionally use the wheelchair if I’m tired or want to be quick around Tesco’s – but even that’s not something I reallythink about.

Every day brings new challenges to overcome and new things to focus on. 

Testing mental toughness

I love taking on new challenges, going on adventures and testing myself.

A few years ago, I saw something about the Berlin Marathon on Instagram and within ten minutes I decided I’d like to do it.

Within an hour I had applied.

Within two hours I had a space and within three hours I was sorting out how to get there.

That’s how I’ve always been. I’m not a huge planner, I like to see what life has to offer and do whatever feels right at that moment in time.

I actually didn’t train for the Berlin Marathon, either, because I wanted to see how far I could get on mental toughness alone.

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Finding inspiration

My children motivate me. The day I became a dad, I knew my life wasn’t about me, it was about them. I think everything I've done since they were born has in some way or another been to either benefit them or show them right from wrong.  

As for myself, I tend to cherry-pick things from people I admire. There’s not one specific person I look up to, but there are lots of people with admirable qualities I’d also like to have. Because of that, I’ve always enjoyed talking to older people, people who have had a life, and hearing about the things they’d change, the things that were good for them, the things that they wish they’d done. I listen to those stories and pull my motivations from there. Everyone can inspire me. 

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